Daniel Gibson Talks Depression, Life Without Keyshia Cole
Gibson: ‘In that depression I kind of found out a lot of things about myself.’
Posted: 09/30/2014 01:30 PM EDT
As you might have guessed, Daniel “Boobie” Gibson doesn’t envision a reconciliation between himself and estranged wifeKeyshia Cole any time soon. But the former Cleveland Cavalier says he’s determined to pick up the pieces of his life for the sake of their four-year-old son, Daniel Jr.
Gibson recently spoke with Necole Bitchie in a candid interview discussing his infidelity, the depression he went through after splitting from his wife, his thoughts on stepping back into the dating game and the state of his relationship with Cole today.
Check out a few excerpts below.
On if he ever cheated…
“There was an incident in the inside of our relationship where I was unfaithful to Keyshia. We tried to work it out like most people do. But that wasn’t even– when that happened between me and Keyshia– that wasn’t even publicized. Everything else was publicized between the two of us but that was something that we tried to work through. I just think that some people can forgive and some people can understand that some people make mistakes, whatever the case may be. I, for one, think that cheating should never happen. And I’m not going to get up here and try to make an excuse for how she might have acted or my pride or my ego or any of that because I did a lot of self-evaluation after me and her relationship and I know what I want out of life [now]. I know what I want out of a woman. I know that I’m capable of giving a woman everything she deserves and needs. I just think sometimes things happen. And I don’t think God makes mistakes and everything happens for a reason and we all grow the way we should grow.”
On going through a depression…
“So as crazy as it sounds, I think everything that happened to me, it happened for a reason. Because out of it all, it showed me what I really want. How to cherish and respect and all of the things I might have neglected or I might have not done well in my last situation, I’ve learned through the depression I went through after losing Keyshia and I felt like [I lost] my son too in the sense that I couldn’t be with him every day. That whole thing took me into a deep depression. And in that depression I kind of found out a lot of things about myself. [Depression] is definitely something I sympathize with. Anybody now, knowing where I came from and where I was, anybody I hear that is possibly dealing with something- I feel inclined to speak to them and tell them that in time– because it does take time– things will get better in the right place.”
On what he’d do differently in his next relationship…
“Well for one, there will never be any disloyalty. This will be my queen. This will be it for me. I wish I had this mind frame before but like I said, [dudes] go through what they go through to understand what it is they need to understand. There will be no disloyalty. There will be friendship. She’ll be able to be whoever she wants to be/I won’t put no chains and no cage on who it is she wants to be. And I’ll support her. And I expect the same. Whatever I want to do, however I want to do it, she’s going to love me. Ride with me. Support me. And we’re just going to do it like that. I feel like I’m trying to change the game up with it. When I look around, I don’t see a lot of people happy. I see a lot of families falling apart, and it’s a sad sight to see when you think about love, or at least the couples that are publicized… it’s a lot of negativity. This being it. ‘Relationships ain’t nothing. Dudes ain’t sh*t.’ That’s all you hear. So I’m trying to be a part of a whole different move.”
On reconciling with Keyshia…
“I think it has gone too far. I think that she looks at me in a certain light. Now, if in fact, somehow, by some wild sense of the imagination. she sees me as I am now, as the man that I’ve become due to everything that we’ve been through and I’ve been through, then I would entertain the thought of it. Because like you said, I adore her. But I don’t even look at her in that way anymore because of how she looks at me. That’s why I feel like that situation would be tough. Because I’m at such a different level, like I’ve moved up. I grew. We made a lifetime investment into our child. So I feel like we owe it to him to at least be cool. And I wish her nothing but the best. Like, I want somebody to make her happy. Like, I’m that dude. I want to see somebody come through and do what they’re supposed to do.”
Check out the entire conversation over at Necole Bitchie.